just happen to read an article mentioned about a website that help you to plan your own funeral!  Plan a funeral, this is something my wife does not like me to talk or discuss about it.  to her, this is something should never be happened.    

I told her the rest of my side of family already purchased the burial places, and I am the only one left out.  She asked  why should I care?  if something happen, we both will bury at the same place.  I told her no matter what, I will "leave" earlier than her. (how could we bury at the same spot, die together?)  I am not young anymore, I have to think about the future. US federal government  is still not legal in same sex marriage, even if I could retire and stay in Taiwan, there is a lot of legal issues will arise.

We never finished this topic, my wife discontinued the conversation. .

I guess this website will be very helpful, if your wife/hubby does not like to discuss and you want to plan something ahead of time. 

https://www.mywonderfullife.com/